How you define your personal freedom? I want you to sit with that question for a minute.
When I say the word freedom, what do you feel? What are the images that dance around your day dream and make your soul come to life?
What do you want to be free of?
For some of us, freedom means having just enough money to be free from living paycheck to paycheck. From never getting to buy ourselves anything, from always being afraid of the next bill, and from living in fear that our bank accounts will overdraft.
For some of us, freedom is the open door to travel to wherever, whenever we please. The freedom to roam and to live as a wild spirit, and to answer to no one as we do.
Maybe freedom means being able to love whomever we want, in public, for the whole world to see.
Or maybe it’s to love as many people as we come across without feeling bound to a label or anyone else’s expectations of us.
Others may dream of freedom from an intoxicating, suffocating love.
Or an obsession.
Or an addiction.
Or maybe, put as simply as humanly possible, most crave the freedom to pursue the life they’ve always dreamed of. Period.
So when I say freedom, what do you feel? And even more importantly, have you ever tried – and I mean, really tried – to get it?
First, figure out what it is and why you want it.
Whatever cage you want to escape, you first need to know what it is in order to gather the tools you’ll need to get away. So what is it? What it is that thing you really want to do, or that way you really want to feel? How do you define freedom?
Hint: If you can’t figure it out, sit with it and run through all your day dreams. Stop when you feel your stomach in knots, your heart racing, and your lungs ache because the thought of it alone made you forget to keep breathing.
Once you have that brilliant vision of what freedom is to you, ask yourself why you want it. How will your life change? Why? Why is it absolutely a non-negotiable that you get to live this freedom?
Hang on to your why; it’s going to be the reason you fight like hell to get it.
Figure out how to get it
It doesn’t matter where you start, what matters is that you do. Hold on tight to your why and start breaking down your escape plan.
And with all the resources at your finger tips, can you find someone who has done what you want to do and achieved the level of freedom you so desperately crave? If so, what did they do? If not, keep looking.
Ask yourself, What needs to happen, right now, for me to get that freedom? What is one thing I can start to do immediately to put this escape plan into action?
Disarm any limiting beliefs
You know what freedom looks like, you’ve done the work in figuring out your escape plan — now what?
You’re not good enough to be free. You don’t deserve it. You have no idea what you’re doing. This life is for everyone else, but you. This is impossible. Why would you make so many sacrifices, expose yourself to the world, and get your hopes up when that kind of freedom doesn’t happen to people like you?
This is where you squeeze your why and answer back.
I am good enough, and I do deserve it. I know what I’m doing, and if I don’t, I’ll figure it out. This is possible. It’s been done before, it can be done again. I will give everything I have because nothing is more important than my happiness and my own, personal freedom.
You’ll sit and dissect every limiting belief in detail until there is nothing left to keep you from pursuing the life you want. Got it?
Befriend affirmations. Visualize your freedom and feel it with all of your senses.
Then, fight for it like your whole life depended on it
Because as it’s been said, your life truly does.
Whatever that freedom is to you, stand up for it and defend it with every fiber of your being, because without it, you’ll always live with one foot shackled.
Shackles that are only made by the crap in your head telling you that you don’t deserve this.
Fight. You hear me? Be the escape artist and create your own path to freedom because life is meant to be lived and loved and experienced with your arms open wide, with your heart open wide, and with the freedom to explore everything it has to offer.
Give yourself permission to be free.