Ever feel like you’re limiting your ability to receive?
When things start going well, the ‘it’s too good to be true‘ crap starts to come up. When you start attracting more abundance, the ‘you can’t have it all’ voices start to echo in the back of your head. Whenever anything starts feeling incredible, you see it all with one eye open while the other eye waits for the other shoe to drop.
It’s like we live life striving to actualize our dreams, to attract incredible partners, and to live abundant lives, yet we walk around with self-made ceilings hovering over us, keeping us from having it all at once.
What would your life look like if you actually gave yourself permission to have it all?
You’re totally worth it, BTW
Let’s start here.
At the root of any existing lack of self-permission is the ridiculous belief that you aren’t worthy of having “it” – and that somehow, you don’t deserve it.
So, this is where the work begins, girl.
It doesn’t matter how much you hustle and how big your vision board is; if you don’t believe you’re deserving of happiness, you will end up finding a way to self-sabotage when it comes your way.
But you should know, my friend, you so deeply deserve to have it all and more.
You deserve the most amazing love in a relationship. You deserve freedom and fun, if you want to be single. You deserve a successful career doing exactly what brings your soul to life, with a fat ass bank account and a dream house to match. You deserve to be surrounded by amazing people, go on amazing adventures, stay home in your pajamas as often as you damn well please…
And you deserve to have it all – at once.
So Let’s Punch Through those Mental Blocks
Let’s be clear about one thing: having it ‘all’ is different for everyone, and that’s okay. For you it may be health, wealth, and a life partner, and for the next person it could be a protective roof, plenty of food on the table, and the freedom to perform their art on stage.
We all have different definitions of ‘all’, but the one common thread is that the thought of having it makes our hearts sing and dance and cringe in shame all in the same beat.
Regardless of what ‘all’ means, there’s something blocking us internally from giving ourselves permission to have it.
So if you only take one thing away from this article, let it be this: Any limitation or block keeping you from having/achieving your dreams is put there by you and only you.
So let’s keep going.
We need to talk about Greed
“Who am I to have it all when so many in this world barely have any?”
The good news is that you’re a good person. The mere fact you worry about others means you’re not greedy. Greedy people go about their day focused on taking for themselves, never thinking twice about how others live their lives.
So, it’s good that you care, yes, but now, it’s time to reframe.
By having more we are not tapping out a limited resource and taking from others. There is ENDLESS abundance in this world. In fact, the more you have, the more you have to give.
When we limit what we receive, all we are doing is lowering that self-made ceiling.
Wanting more shouldn’t mean to not be grateful for what we have:
You should be grateful for all that you have and all the life experience that has gotten you to where you are, yes.
But you don’t have to choose gratitude over progress. You can have both.
You can love yourself as you are and want to improve your well-being.
You can be grateful for the roof over your head and want a bigger one.
You can love where you’re at and want to go higher.
You’re not an ungrateful piece of shit for wanting more.
External Permission: Aligned Hustle and Discipline Like Your Life Depended on It
So we talked about being worthy of more, having more so we can give more, being grateful for what we have and still working toward more…
This is all internal permission. The external permission happens when you drop into aligned action.
Aligned action means turning on the hustle switch and focusing on doing all the things that will bring you the ‘all’ that you want.
I do believe we’re born deserving and worthy of having it all, but for those of us who are high achievers, being proactive is itself a non-negotiable, which is why I call this external permission. It has to happen in order for us to fully feel like we’ve earned success.
Doing the work helps us open up to receive.
You have an incredible relationship because you’ve done the hard inner work to be able to love and trust.
You have the car and the house because you’ve sacrificed fun and put in the time.
You have the incredible friends and family around you because you’ve taken uncomfortable action to get rid of the toxic.
Give yourself the external permission of having it all by doing the work to earn it.
Make NO apologies
Fact: The more you hustle, focus, and drop into your alignment, the more you will achieve.
Also fact: The more you achieve, the more others will project their regrets or insecurities onto you.
It doesn’t matter what body type you have – if you ever act like you love it, those who don’t love their own will project their shit onto you.
If you treat yourself to a nice car or a spa day, those unhappy with their financial situation or lack of free time will project their shit onto you.
If you’re in a thriving relationship, those who aren’t will project their shit onto you. If you’re happy being single, those who wish they were or hate that they are will project their shit onto you.
Do you see the pattern here?
Owning your relationship status, your hustle ethic, your achievements, and your ability to receive is nothing to be ashamed of – nor should it be a reason to dim your light because others haven’t gone after theirs.
Don’t limit your potential because others aren’t doing the work.
Focus on yourself and expand your ability to receive.
You have permission.