I know what you’re thinking: it’s too late.
This is who I am and this is how I feel and this is how it’s going to be. The people who finally lose that weight; who leave toxic relationships to fall back in love with themselves; who emerge as brand new, unapologetically confident badasses? Yeah, that’s not me, they’re different.
I know that’s what you’re thinking.
And fuck, are you wrong.
I know that you see the end goal as being so far out of reach that it seems impossible. That you’ll never be that person. Do that thing. Follow that dream. That you’ll never become more confident, more self-loving, more self-accepting, or more comfortable in your own skin.
Maybe you think that creating and manifesting your ideal life is just not in the stars for you.
Look, I know what it means to give up hope and settle for what seems like ‘fine’ because you don’t think it could ever be more than that.
But it’s never too late, and yes, things CAN be better
And change is possible. You can pivot. You can take control of your life and your relationships and demand something better for yourself. You can transform what you see in the mirror to be a reflection of who you deserve to be and how you deserve to feel about yourself.
It’s all fucking possible, and it starts with taking the first step.
Because pivoting, taking control, and transforming are all actions — and actions yield results.
Think about walking forward on your life timeline. With each step you take, you’ll realize the time that lies behind you doesn’t really matter anymore – mostly because you don’t have any control over it. Sometimes it’s helped and sometimes it’s slowed you down, but one thing is certain: it’s always kept you moving forward.
So you are exactly where you need to be.
Mistakes, regrets, self-loathing for what the past may or may not have looked like … none of it serves a purpose. What does, however, is the time you have before you. The opportunity to decide to make the best of the rest of your life.
So here’s what you need: A plan
If you want to make a change in your life, no matter how deep and no matter how grand, it all starts with a plan.
It can be overwhelming to see things big picture. Because when we close our eyes and imagine this ideal change, it’s so vastly different than the life we’re living now, that we inevitably start to wonder how realistic it is for us to even try.
But breaking things down into smaller sections, and then breaking them own again into more digestible nuggets, and then again into daily actionable steps?
Now that, we can work with.
And it can all be clumped into these 5 steps.
- Prep the foundation – Mentally preparing and setting up the emotional space to go on this journey. You tackle issues of self-love, self-limiting beliefs, and fuel the fuck out of your motivation.
- Envision & do your research – Getting really clear on the goals you want to achieve and carving out the time to research how to achieve them.
- Put a plan together – Putting pen to paper and putting together a step-by step process on exactly what you’ll be doing to make this change happen.
- Act – Creating habits and focusing on implementation. Every single day, you act toward the change. Little steps, little actions, and little tweaks in behaviors.
- Check in – Learning to check in on your own progress, reward your victories and forgive yourself for the set backs.
But you have to really fucking want it
Change is possible; but not only do you have to want it, you have to actually keep at it. The failure does not come from not meeting your goals, it comes from not getting back up and trying again.
Revolutionary change takes work, and it may not seem like you’re making any progress when you hit those gut-wrenching hurdles, but every single time you get back up and push through, means triumph. Every single time you wipe the tears and try again, you win.
Because it’s in that moment that you are demanding more of yourself. That you are firmly and unapologetically declaring the person you want to be and the work you’re will to do to get there.
And what awaits, my friends, is fucking amazing. Sometimes it’s not even the thing you set out to do. Sometimes, you surprise yourself and go above and beyond what you had initially dreamed.
Sometimes, you get everything you’ve ever dreamed of and so much more.
Wanna know why?
Because you finally decided to show up for yourself. To stand up. To take action. To fucking fight for your own happy ending.
And that’s the stuff worth celebrating.